Words of Wisdom

Below is what a friend posted from what Oprah has said about men.

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slower is better.Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”. A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within. Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are… even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending…compromise is two way street.You need time to heal between relationships…there is nothing cute about baggage… Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you…a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals… look for someone complimentary… not supplementary.Dating is fun… even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes… when a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him – he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother’s house. Never co-sign for a man. Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.Share this, you’ll make someone smile, another rethink their choices, and another woman prepare.They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them….and an entire lifetime to forget them.

What are you thoughts on it? I have my own but, would love to hear a different opinion.

5 thoughts on “Words of Wisdom

  1. Some of these are great! Too often girls give everything they have, emotionally and financially, to men that don’t deserve it. But some of them are ridiculous…like don’t move into his mothers house, we did that and are fine. Also the co-signing thing, if you are married and committed to one another, it makes sense. Especially when he’s expected to co-sign for his wife and take on her debts. But at one month in…ya no. Be smart about things. Shoot high. Don’t settle.

    1. Yeah. Definitely agree.

      Funny comment about the one month in–that’s how long we were dating before we got married. 🙂

      1. Nah–you’re good. I worked with him from August until end of December–only saw him around. We started hanging out New Year’s Eve night but, didn’t “know know” him. 🙂 But, I wouldn’t change our lives in any way. If we hadn’t started dating and got married when we did, we wouldn’t have our amazing boys. 😀

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