Week 3: 5 Years From Now

This evening, after reading a wonderful post last night, I sat down to read Fit to be Tied–two of my older sisters had read the book. Sister 3 let Sister 4 borrow it. Then, Sister 4 thought it was so good that she gave it to me to read and then give back to Sister 3. Well, I still have it but, Sister 3 & I are now roommates. (Funny enough.) I pulled it out this evening and began reading it. A lot of the stuff they mentioned really hit home–highs in marriage being high highs and lows being low lows. Well, that’s what we have but, our highs are getting higher and our lows aren’t so low and they definitely aren’t as frequent–like the people in the book. But, one thing they mentioned was that they had similar goals, beliefs, etc. So, with “Week 3: My Life 5 Years From Now” waiting for me & the similar goals in the book–an opportunity presented itself. So, here it is…

Mr. will you do something with me. Will you make a list of where you want to be in 5 years?

After some back and forth about if I wanted in-depth or not–which we finally agreed that I wanted really, really in-depth because of the details I wanted. But, we have similar goals! And I loved being able to see that. Below are our lists. Some are similar and others are things we agree on but, not what was on our mind at the time. So–here it is.

Mr’s List

  • 32 years old
  • Living in (blanked out) Area
  • Mortgage first home
  • Own 2 vehicles
  • Try (maybe once) for a girl (maybe)
  • Same company different title
  • Own a PS4
  • Still be married to (wife–he put my initials)
  • L adopted
  • See J on summers (he visits us)
  • Not so fat
  • Alive still

And now for my list…

Unsure’s List

  • 27 years old
  • Own/Paying off our house
  • Boys schooling
  • Me working from home (solid career path)
  • Mr. pursuing/already in high position IT job
  • Vacations each summer
  • Discussing a baby girl/foster/adoption
  • Playing Fantasy Football w/family
  • Able to give Mr. (and boys) his own “game/football room”
  • Owe a SUV/minivan
  • Degree in journalism
  • (blanked out) followers on (blank)
  • Has his & hers tattoos
  • Funny hair colors be back
  • Doing more DIY projects
  • Pinterest ideas complete

Our conversation for there lead to these conclusions:

  • We’re both over moving
  • We both want to be paying off/own our first home
  • Mr. will have a better higher up job (one that he definitely deserves)
  • If we’re going to have a baby girl, it’ll be before I am 30 years old, as I don’t want to be in my 30’s pushing out kiddos–call me selfish but, I don’t.
  • We both want to be able to have more than 1 car.
  • Mr. likes the idea of me working from home.
  • He liked the game/football room idea.
  • He will be getting a PS4 for our next anniversary–SURPRISE!
  • We are both excited to get L’s adoption papers in order soon
  • We would both like to loss some weight/get healthier
  • We are both determined to still be married to each other

And for now, that’s about it. There is Week 3, the beginning of Fit To Be Tied, and the uphill journey our marriage is taking. A beautiful sight in many ways to see. Now, it see how true this holds in the next for years. But, it will be revisited–next year, I believe that we will be mostly down with some of the things on our list. And I hope to write a new list, for the next 5 years.

And with that, I bid you all a good night–Z has declared a random fuss and I need to get cleaned up for tomorrow’s chores. Boys will be up early and I would like to be well rested. So, good night to all–& I wish you all a sunshine-filled & happy  Sunday tomorrow.

Propose A Purpose

Last night, before I finally fell asleep, I had a “Go Ahead & Judge Me” post planned but, obviously it wasn’t too important because I can’t remember what I was going to put in it but, as I am sitting here this morning, I feel like having a post of just revealing a lot but, for now–we’ll just keep thinking but, what is really on my mind is two things…

First, HAPPY DAY! When my mom was up here this last weekend, she took my hubby out for a breakfast sandwich & he sat down & just started talking to her about a lot of things that are going on in our marriage & things he knows he needs to change if we are going to make it another year–Next year would be our 5 year old’s birthday & my mom’s birthday too (as they are 9 days apart). So, my mom was half joking about coming back up here in a year & checking in with him to see how things are going & he was okay with it. I super excited because–well, I must admit, I would have been the first to say our marriage was going to hit a dead end if we didn’t tackle the potholes we were having in our marriage. But, he has been working his bum off this week. He hasn’t been on the computer when the boys are awake, he has been putting in applications, we haven’t been attacking each other, & this morning, when little Z woke up at 5 AM (I swear the clock said 2 AM–or so I thought), I got up with him but, my hubby got up with him & sent me back to bed–as long as he got a nap. I got up at 6:30 but, he tried to send me back to bed but, I stayed awake so I was feeling a lot more rested.

The way our marriage is going now, I have to say, I FREAKING LOVE IT! He has been helping around the house, looking for a job, running errands, helping with the boys, playing with them, & planning stuff out with me. We have a trip to the Oregon Coast planned next summer! Just going to start saving for it & see what all we want to do so we can get it rolling. So, in regards to that–if you have a favorite place in Oregon… What is it?

Also, my hubby had to go to the store to get bread & milk last night but, he ended up getting other food but, I was super proud because unless we REALLY needed it, he got everything on sale! I am super proud–in case you haven’t read it already, I am a couponer. I haven’t been able to do much of it since we have moved but, I love, love, love to coupon & save as much money as possible because we have 5 people to feed & right now, money is tight & we live off of assistance. So, the fact that he saved 15% on food, just by making sure everything was on sale–& this weekend, I told my mom I was craving onion rings. Well, guess what he got!

The other thing is thanks to a beautiful, fellow blogger. She started blogging 52 Weeks of Blogging with a Purpose which made me Google some ideas. I found one that I really like & I believe will give me some self-growth & allow me to truly to get know myself & everything around me so, I am excited to start that. I got the idea from the picture below–well, the idea of what I’ll be blogging about. Although, it might just be as fun to create my own, I really like the way this is laid out.

Well, this morning, I am hoping that my hubby gets a interview or some kind of news on a job–he has been stressed out lately & I know that it is eating away at his manhood–I’ve been there before, not the manhood part, just jobless and it gets to you so, I am really hoping that something will come around for him. Poor guy!

And with that, the noise from the kiddos & the “mommy” ‘s start.